FRIENDSHIP: Who is your friend?

 I was in a small gathering yesterday and I was asked the simple question, “Who is your friend?” I struggled to answer in simple terms. So much for a “simple” question! I did more of describing the relationship I had with my friends. I quickly scrolled to the dictionary on my phone and found salvation. My dictionary defined a friend as a person who gives assistance, a patron, a supporter. A person who is on good terms with another, a person who is not hostile.

We had argued back and forth but finally agreed that a friend is that person that:

1.  Inspires you: If you have friends that do not inspire you positively in any way, something is wrong somewhere. The English is probably too much. If your friend no dey ginja you at all at all to do better thing, una no be padi o. Reasons being; friendship is meant to bring about growth and progress. If your friend doesn’t inspire you to grow and progress, that friend is not your friend. Enough said.
2.   Sees all your flaws but stays by your side still: I mean… what else can a son of man ask for? You have somebody that sees the ugly side of you that person is not ashamed of you but stays to encourage and advise you? That’s a friend you want to keep.
3. Tells you the truth no matter what: This could be a bit hard sha but that’s why its only true friends that would do it. You have a person that can tell you you’re messing up and possibly point you in the right direction? That’s bae right there!
4. Listens to you: Not many people are patient these days, we may see the need to share our ideas, goals, dreams, problems, fears or on a lighter note, some aproko gist and then nobody is willing to listen. That could be painful and depressing for real. Do you have somebody that listens to you, no matter how intelligent or dumb you sound? That’s a good person and a real friend. 
5.     Shares their food with you: See ehn… we cannot be friends if I cannot eat your food and pinch your meat while at it. Jesus ate with his disciples a couple of times. That shows the importance of eating together. So why shouldn’t we? Sharing food is a fantastic way to grow friendship and bond. It builds trust and promotes honesty. It also saves money!  *LOL*

There’s so much more to talk about on friendship but that’s where I’ll stop today. You can also contribute by sending in your comments.